Relationships

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Losing perspective will threaten your career, and maybe your life

Sanjay Valvani, a 44 year old married father of two daughters, killed himself this week. Valvani was a partner at a hedge fund, and had been accused of insider trading. Prosecutors were seeking a prison sentence up to 65 years. This story rocked me. I’m married and have two young boys. I take my career
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What it means to not judge people, personally or professionally

Want a way to sound enlightened? Claim you don’t judge people. You’re above that. You don’t get dragged down into the mud, fighting against the frustrations and resentments that overwhelm most people. And of course that’s a crock. Unless you’re not paying attention, or you’re Buddha-level enlightened, you judge people. Then what does it mean
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Gregg Popovich just taught you how to be an A player

Gregg Popovich is the head coach of the San Antonio Spurs, the most successful franchise in professional basketball over the last 20 years. The Spurs have won five NBA championships under his watch. Last week, he was asked what the Spurs look for in their employees. Here’s what he said: “For us, it’s easy. We’re
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The real value of the trite message to be yourself

If you’ve read any self-help literature, you’ve seen the advice to be yourself. If you’ve seen it once, you’ve seen it a thousand times. Me too. Trust me, I get it. I know I need to be me. It’s obvious. Who else am I going to be? The advice is ubiquitous for a reason though.
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Find a mentor...any mentor

I find meaning in life through my connections with other people. Connections with family are obvious. They’re profound. They’re ever-present. When I was a kid, it was my parents and my brother. Now, as a grown-up, it’s my wife and son. But don’t overlook connections at work. When I was in graduate school, I connected
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